What are parents? And what are they not?

Pedagogy Association, Istanbul Our “values” and “identities” are mixed up like many other things in today’s world. And when the daily rush of life is added to this mix-up, our identities, which determine our way of life, completely lose function. Sometimes although we have the aim of using our identities more effectively, we may forget who we are or our self amidst this daily rush. When it comes to the identity of “mother and father,” who are of particular concern to our children- whom we cannot realize how quick they…

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Principles of raising children

From Majmu’a Rasail Imam Ghazali According to Imam Ghazali (ra), child education starts with birth; because personalities of parents have influence on their child’s future personality. He put special emphasis on moral education and expressed his opinions on the subject. In the introduction to his “Golden Principles of Raising Children,” Imam Ghazali first calls child “Allah’s trust given to parents.” He describes the heart of a child as “a nice, clean, and simple mirror capable of accepting the influence of all types of impressions and influences.” A child’s heart can…

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What is holy for families?

What is spoken most in family is its most holy. Family life is the special place where people express themselves in the most comfortable way, and show their true personalities by leaving the business stuff and all the roles aside. Family life, from this aspect, is an environment where truth is lived and spoken. Therefore, the interests, concerns, conversations, agendas, plans, programs, sorrows, joys of the family members are shaped according to this environment. What sets our agenda in our house? As family members coming together in evenings, what do…

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The Importance of Family in Society

At beginning of surah al-Nisa, Allah (swt) says, In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful. “O people, keep your duty to your Lord, Who created you from a single being and created its mate of the same (kind), and spread from these two many men and women. And keep your duty to Allah, by Whom you demand one of another (your rights), and (to) the ties of relationship. Surely Allah is ever a Watcher over you.”(Nisa, 4:1) There are many examples in Quran and in Sunnah about how…

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Rights of the Wife over Husband 

Husband must be friendly, kind, generous and nice to his wife. First of all, I believe we must know that the law of the family is for ensuring the happiness of the whole family. Therefore, in what way the happiness is brought it is the most important and basic thing to do. If we will further violate the rights of children and family members while trying to seek our rights, in that case, the family peace must be our priority instead of seeking our right. In fact, when someone’s right…

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Family Life in Ayahs and Hadiths

The verses from the Holy Qur’an: “And enjoin prayer upon your family [and people] and be steadfast therein.” (TaHa, 20:132) “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire…” (Tahrim, 66:6) “And live with them [women] in kindness.” (Nisa, 4:19) “Upon the father is their [i.e., the mothers’] provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable.” (Baqarah, 2:233) “Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted – let him spend from what Allāh has given him. Allāh does…

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Our Beloved Ones: Children

Children are a blessing from Allah (swt). As they are innocent and sinless, they can be directed into righteous people with a positive approach. We should always try to treat our children in a fair way. We should treat neither the boy nor the girl in an unjust way. As known, even in Muslim countries, families might be treating the boy or the girl unjustly. This is not the way in Islam. We should treat and embrace all of our children in the same way. Also we should not abandon…

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The Role of the Family in Constructing Society

The family as a building-block of society seems so fragile nowadays. A society whose families are not based on spiritual values is vulnerable in the face of upcoming crises. Human beings are born into the arms of their parents and for their survival they are in need of the society of which their parents are a part. That’s why the smallest unit that forms and represents the society is not an individual but rather a family. The family is the core of the society, it is what makes the society…

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A Small Paradise: Family Life-2

15- Keep saying these words which beautify your marriage: You’re right honey! Possible! I love you for the sake of Allah! I really understand you! God bless your hands! You are unique! I am sorry! You are always in my heart! Let’s hope the best inshaallah! You are God’s gift to me! That’s all right! Thank you! I’m not angry at you! I’m praying for you! I trust you! May Allah always keep you with us! It’s okay! May Allah bless you! That’s great! Don’t worry! 16- Keep the secrets…

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A Small Paradise: Family Life-1

“A small world and a small paradise of every person is his home (family),” says Imam Nursi. It is only possible to start a paradise-like family life with the spiritual principles like compassion, respect, love, intimacy, devotion which are results of belief in God and hereafter. It is possible to live a family life with our spouse and children like in the paradise, or to make it turn into a hell. It is in our hands. So here are some suggestions for all of us to make our family life…

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