Garden of Truths

Honey of the world, molasses of the hereafter

Flies never would perch on Abdul-Qadir Gilani. One of those who were aware of this situation asked:

“We have never seen that a fly perched upon you. What is the reason behind this?

That blessed man gave such a good response:

“Why should it perch on me? I carry neither honey of the world nor molasses of the hereafter on me…”

For a happy marriage

1. Believe that the marriage is a sacred establishment.

2. Remember always that your spouse and children are the trustees of Allah (SWT) to you.

3. What is important in marriage is to preserve the family happiness and peace.

4. A sustainable marriage is dependent on mutual love, respect and tolerance.

5. Have respect for your spouse’s thoughts, feelings and aims and share them with her/him.

6. Allocate time absolutely for your spouse and children.

Codes of Success

1- Whatever you do, the ultimate goal should be the pleasure of Allah (SWT).

2- Consumption is not the goal of life; it is an instrument for life. Instead of being a beast of consumption, you should be a person of da’wah by adopting goals which will add meaning into your life…

3-The success is not a mere chance. It is the result of both hard work and good idea.

4-A work which you do not follow up will not be completed. In order to get a positive result you should insist on following up.

5- Trusting one person is fine but checking what he’s doing is also needed. Trust is not an obstacle for checking.

6-You need good communication ability as well as good education.

7-Nobody knows everything. Two minds are better than one. There is benefit and mercy in consultation. *

The Mirror and the Soil

The soil said to the mirror: “I envy of you! Whoever looks at you sees himself, but the ones who look at me see only me!”

The mirror responded the soil: “O black soil! Why do you get worried for a futile trouble! Do not you know that I show today of those who look at me but you show them their future?!”

Although the soil liked this response it asked again: “It is obvious you speak to calm me down. Answer me, do those who look at you ever look at me?”

And the mirror said the following with a bitter smile: “Do not worry! Those who do not have face to look at me will always look at you.”

Left Dinner Table

The dinner table of Abdurrahman b. Avf (R.A), who was one of those ten companions who were heralded with the heaven, was adorned with several kinds of foods to break his fast. He felt sorry for this and said the following: “Mus’ab b. Umair became martyr in the battle of Uhud. He was virtuous than me, however he had nothing except for a cardigan as a cerement. And when we covered his head with this cardigan his feet were left naked. Now, everything was granted us for world life. Indeed, I fear that we are taking the rewards of our good deeds in the world!” After these words Abdurrahman b. Avf (R.A) left the table.

The House of Our Prophet

Maulana Jalal al-Din Rumi performs the fajr prayer and returns home and asks his wife “do we have something to eat for breakfast?”

His wife answers “You know that there is nothing to eat at home!”

Upon this Maulana says “Al hamdu lillah, today our home is similar to the prophet’s”

Why Cannot You be Your Child’s Best Friend?

You cannot be a friend to your child because you cannot share anything!

You always speak and never listen to him/her because you always act bossy.

Since you forget your faults you never tolerate their faults and forgive them.

You cannot spend a qualified, enjoyable, special time with him/her because you are negligent or you are too busy!

You do not charge him/her with a duty (even a duty heavier then he/she can do!) because you are coward and hesitant!

You neglect physiological contact with him/her which shows love and compassion and you do not huge him/her tightly because that’s the way you were treated in your family!

*(Source: Omar Bolat, Liderlik Gönül İşidir, Hayat Pub.)